REMEMBER YOU LOVE YOUR SPOUSE
I won’t kill my husband.. I won’t
First things first. Let me begin with saying…
i LOVE KYLE.
We are all as a world currently going through a very unique circumstance. One that is challenging all of us to spend a more often than not, uncommonly obsene amount of time with our best friend/spouse. Now I know we all love our best friends/spouses, but let’s be serious, this amount of time together can be challenging and tricky to navigate. There’s a certain amount of losing our minds we can all tolerate. However, this new time we all have together, it’s important to maintain SELF independence while still LOVING EACHOTHER.
Now if you know me at all, and I’m aware that the majority does not, I am some one who craves space, independence, and alone time. It’s a requirement I’ve found for my daily sanity in all areas. Kyle and I both are people who strive to maintain a certain level of independence. How do you do that while maintaining a strong healthy relationship? I feel like that is something Kyle and I are still learning but there are a few things that seem to be helping that I thought I’d share if you also crave the same either all the time or just during this unique period.. The truth is that we have a long way to go, and our marriage is in a season of challenge and change. However, this time together we have been cursed and yet blessed with is certainly something I am trying to learn and grow from. While we’re all quite literally stuck in our homes
Space is a GOOD thing- There’s really no rule book here people. Who told us it wasn’t ok to ask for some space? If you ask me, and Kyle I’m sure, space is one of the keys to our marriage surviving. We both need it. And now more than ever. Spending so much time together can be challenging and stressful. It’s ok to give each other a little space.
Boundaries- Give it to one another. That’s it. Whatever each others may be. They probably all differ. For us its knowing when to talk work and when not to. When to approach the other person when they’re engulfed in something else. Or when to get into the heavy and when not to. To know when the other has a limit or a fuse lit. If you can figure these things out….well you just let me know I’m still working on this one A LOT.
1 Meal a day to stay- This just means that one meal a day we make an attempt to be together and PRESENT. To cook, TALK, drink wine, play games, put our phones down, and just be. It’s not always dinner, sometimes it’s brunch, or a HH. Food might not be an actual love language but it should be.
Exercise- It’s no secret that the release pf endorphins can drastically alter a persons mood. What does it for you? idk… walk, run, play twister, par core? For me it’s running, it’s a high for me. But, I mean, just go do it. Do it alone, do it with your person, but whatever it is just DO IT!!!
LAUGHTER- ya, that’s it. Kyle makes me laugh EVERY DAY. Find someone who makes you laugh people. I don’t know how to make that any simpler.
Like I said, Kyle and I HAVE TO WORK at this everyday. We are currently in a season of challenge and change as are most of us. Let us all try to get through it with a little grace, independence, food, exercise, and laughter!!!!!
